Episode Transcript
Today we’re breaking down the think-feel-act cycle — the powerful tool that doesn’t just
shape how you build strong, toned arms, but how you show up for every part of your
life. I’ll show you exactly why your thoughts are quietly sabotaging your results, and how
to start rewiring them so you can finally follow through, feel proud of your body, and trust
yourself again.
Hey everybody! Welcome to The Arm Coach Podcast, episode 74!
Today we’re doing a deep dive into something I know is going to change the way you
think about your workouts, your eating habits, even how you show up for yourself. It’s
called the think-feel-act cycle. And oh my goodness — this is hands down the concept I
get the most questions about.
Because here’s what usually happens: as soon as my clients hear it, there’s this huge
“ah-ha” moment. It’s like, “Wait a second… that’s why I keep self-sabotaging. That’s
why I start off strong and then fizzle out. That’s why I keep putting this off, even though I
really want toned arms and to feel proud of myself.”
Suddenly it all clicks. They’re not broken. Their brains are just following a very normal
pattern. And the relief they feel is so powerful. They’ll say, “Why didn’t anyone teach me
this sooner? Now it actually makes sense. I can see exactly why I feel the way I do, and
why I act the way I do.”
But here’s the thing — it’s one thing to understand the think-feel-act cycle. It’s a whole
different thing to use it as a tool. And that’s what we’re going to dig into today: how to
actually apply this so you can create strong, sculpted arms, healthier habits, and most
importantly, a rock-solid trust in yourself.
I’ve truly used this tool for every part of my life — not just how I eat or exercise, but also
in my relationships, my confidence, even building this business.
I first discovered this framework during a huge transition. I was living in Wisconsin. My
husband, who’s a plastic surgeon, had just sold his clinic — along with the Medispa and
skincare line I was managing. Our kids were off in college, and suddenly I was in this
big, open space of “Now what? Who am I without all of that? What’s next for me?”
That’s when I decided it was time to figure me out. Not just how to fill my days, but how
to create real purpose. That’s when I stumbled across Brooke Castillo and The Life
Coach School. And through that, I discovered this powerful concept — rooted in
cognitive behavioral therapy — that our thoughts create our feelings, which drive our
actions. It’s called the think-feel-act cycle.
Once I started applying it, everything changed. Not just in big life decisions, but in the
small daily moments — like whether I’d show up for a workout, whether I’d honor my
plan for eating, or whether I’d cave to excuses.
So that’s what I want to give you today. I want this to be a tool you can pull out anytime
— because it’s truly the secret to building the strong arms you want, and an even
stronger relationship with yourself.
When I first learned this concept, it honestly felt like someone finally handed me the
instruction manual to my brain. Up until then, I’d been trying to figure out why I couldn’t
stay consistent — why I’d start off strong with a new workout routine or nutrition plan,
only to watch myself slip back into old habits.
I was always searching for the plan or the magic solution — when really, it was my
thoughts running the show the entire time.
What changed everything for me was discovering the think-feel-act cycle. I didn’t learn it
through a traditional support group or anything like that. I actually stumbled across it
while I was diving into brain science, habits, and personal development — because I’ve
always been the type that loves learning new things. I wanted to understand why I felt
so stuck, why I kept hitting the same walls over and over again.
And then I found this concept that explained it so simply: it’s your thoughts that create
your feelings, and your feelings drive your actions. Which means if I wanted to change
my actions — like consistently doing my workouts, following through on my nutrition, or
even building stronger, more toned arms — I had to start by looking at what I was
thinking.
For the first time, I understood: it wasn’t about willpower. It wasn’t about forcing myself
or feeling deprived. It was about uncovering the sentences running through my mind
that were shaping everything I did. If I could spot them, if I could become aware of them,
then I could start to shift them.
That’s when everything opened up for me. Suddenly I could see, “Ohhh, it’s not just
about feeling restricted or like I’m missing out. I can actually change that narrative. I can
change how I think, and that will change how I feel — which changes how I show up.”
This was so powerful for me that it sparked an even deeper journey of self-discovery. I’d
been on this path in bits and pieces since my 20s, but finally having this tool made it all
click.
And a couple of years later, that’s when I discovered Brooke Castillo and The Life
Coach School. Brooke’s work resonated with me immediately because she also used
the think-feel-act cycle — but she expanded it in such a brilliant way. She added two
more pieces that helped me see the full picture of how my mind was operating day to
day. It was like someone flipped on the lights in a room I’d been stumbling through in
the dark.
This didn’t just help me build stronger arms or healthier habits — it helped me rebuild
trust in myself, show up differently in my marriage, and ultimately launch this entire
business.
So here’s where it gets even better. Brooke took this think-feel-act cycle and expanded
it by adding two more pieces: the neutral circumstance at the start, and the result at the
end.
And let me tell you — once I learned this, it truly supercharged everything for me. It
turned this idea into a real, practical tool I could pull out anytime. That’s what makes it
so life-changing.
Here’s why those two additions matter so much: first, it’s about understanding that we
never just think thoughts out of thin air. We always have something we’re thinking
about. That’s the circumstance. And circumstances are neutral — they’re just facts in
the world.
So often, we mash everything together. We think our thoughts are reality. We don’t
separate what’s actually happening in the world from what we’re making it mean. Like, “I
didn’t do my arm workout today… so I must be lazy or broken.” We treat that whole
sentence as if it’s the truth, when really, the only fact is, “I didn’t do my workout today.”
Seeing the difference between what’s happening and what we’re thinking about it is
insanely powerful.
Then on the other side, there’s the result. Everything we do — or don’t do — creates a
result. So when Brooke added this piece, it helped me finally see: “Ohhh, this is exactly
how I’m creating my life. The strong arms I want, the energy I want, the trust in myself
— all of it ties back to this cycle.”
So what I’m going to do today is break this whole model down for you step by step.
We’ll go through each part — the circumstance, the thought, the feeling, the action, and
the result — and I’ll show you exactly how to start using it. Because I know so many of
you listening are thinking, “Okay, this makes total sense. I love this framework… but
how do I actually apply it? How do I use it to finally follow through, so I can build strong,
toned arms and actually feel proud of myself?”
Alright, let’s dive in. We’re going to start with the first piece of this whole cycle: the
circumstance.
So what is a circumstance? It’s basically everything happening outside of you.
Everything out in the world — right now and in the past — that you can’t instantly
control. It’s the facts. Like the weather today, or what’s showing up in the news, or who’s
in the White House.
It also includes everything that’s already happened. What happened yesterday, ten
years ago, or even back in your childhood. Sometimes I love to zoom way out and think
of it this way: your past is as unchangeable as ancient Rome. Seriously. The decisions
you made last month, the way you grew up — it’s all as fixed and factual now as the
history books. That perspective can be really freeing.
Circumstances also include people. Your husband, your kids, your best friend, your
mother-in-law, your boss. You can’t directly control them in this moment. They’re neutral
facts of your life — they exist outside your immediate power.
And here’s something that surprises a lot of my clients: circumstances also include
things like your current weight, the shape of your arms right now, your age, your job,
even how much money is in your bank account today. Sure, you can absolutely change
these things over time — and honestly, you’ll be amazed at how the think-feel-act cycle
can help you do that. But right now, in this very moment, they’re simply facts.
And that’s the key. All of these circumstances are completely neutral until you think a
thought about them. That means your arms today are neutral. The number on the scale
is neutral. Even your wrinkles, your cellulite, your sagging skin — all of it is just factual
until you layer on a thought like, “This is awful,” or “I shouldn’t look this way.”
I really want you to let this sink in: everything out there is neutral until you think a
thought about it. And when you really pause to see that, it makes so much sense. It’s
your interpretation — your understanding, your judgment of what’s happening in your
life or in your body — that creates how you feel.
This is why it’s so powerful to separate out circumstances from your thoughts about
them. Because when you do, you start to see exactly where your feelings are actually
coming from. And that’s the magic of the work we do inside Arms By Kristine — we
don’t just hand you workouts or a meal formula. We teach you how to work with your
brain, so you can change how you feel about showing up for yourself, about your body,
and about the journey you’re on.
Now, I know that for a lot of people, the moment they hear this idea — that
circumstances are neutral — their brain wants to argue. It might sound like, “Okay
Kristine, but what about really terrible things? What about violence, or someone passing
away? Are you honestly saying that’s neutral?”
And here’s what I want to offer you. Yes. Even things that most people in the world
would label as awful are still neutral until we think a thought about them. That’s why two
people can experience the same exact event and feel completely different.
Think about that for a moment. It doesn’t even matter if 99% of the world would agree,
“This is terrible.” If there’s even one person who might think differently, it proves the
point — the circumstance itself isn’t creating the feeling. It’s always the thought.
And this is so liberating when it comes to your own arms, your own weight, your own
age. Those things are just facts. It’s your thoughts — like, “I hate how my arms look in
sleeveless tops,” or “It’s too late for me to change” — that create the shame, the
frustration, the urge to quit.
Inside Arms By Kristine, this is some of the most important work we do. Because once
you learn to separate out what’s actually happening from what you’re thinking about it,
you finally get to decide on purpose how you want to feel. That’s where everything
starts to change.
Alright, now this is where we really step into the heart of the think-feel-act cycle — and it
all starts with your thoughts.
So let’s break this down. A thought is simply a sentence in your mind. That’s it. It’s just
something you’re thinking about a circumstance. It’s your opinion, your judgment, your
assessment of whether something is good or bad, right or wrong.
And let’s be honest — how many times have you caught yourself saying, “But this is just
true. This is just a fact.”
It happens to all of us. I hear this from my Arms By Kristine clients all the time. Thoughts
like, “My arms are so flabby, that’s just the truth,” or “I’m too old to get toned now, that’s
just how it is.”
But here’s what I want you to see: your thoughts are not facts. They’re opinions. They’re
judgments. They’re stories your brain has gotten really good at repeating. And that’s
good news — because it means they’re always, always optional.
Even if you’ve practiced thinking the same thought for decades — like, “I’m just not
disciplined enough,” or “I’ll never follow through,” or that old favorite, “I’m not enough.”
— it’s still optional. It might not feel that way yet, but it absolutely is.
And thank goodness for that, right? Because if your thoughts weren’t optional, you’d be
stuck with them forever. You’d be stuck with stories that keep you from ever stepping
into the strong, confident woman you want to be.
So here’s the magic: while you can’t instantly change your circumstances — your
current weight, your age, your past — you can change your thoughts. And that’s where
all your power lies.
Inside Arms By Kristine, this is one of the most important things we work on. Because
when you realize your thoughts are optional, you can start choosing ones that actually
help you show up for your workouts, fuel your body in a way that supports muscle, and
build arms that you’re proud to show off.
So just keep reminding yourself: circumstances are neutral, outside your immediate
control. But your thoughts? Those are yours to rewrite. And that’s exactly how you
change everything.
Now, when I first introduce this idea — that your thoughts are optional — most people
have one (or both) of these reactions.
They’ll either say, “Okay, so does this mean I’m just supposed to slap on a smile and
see everything as positive all the time? Like fake it till I make it?” Or they’ll go the other
way and think, “So if my thoughts are optional, are you saying how I feel is all my fault?”
If either of those popped into your head, I want you to know you’re in very good
company. This is exactly what so many of my Arms By Kristine clients wrestle with at
first.
So let me clear this up right now: the answer to both is no.
No, you’re not supposed to see everything as rainbows and puppies all day long. And
no, how you feel isn’t your “fault.”
Here’s why: I don’t want to feel positive about everything that happens — and neither
should you.
We were meant to experience the full spectrum of emotions, both positive and negative.
When hard things happen in life, I want to feel negative emotion. I want to feel grief if I
lose someone I love. I want to feel anger when I see something unjust.
Negative emotions aren’t bad. They’re part of being human. Honestly, they’re part of
what makes the good moments so meaningful.
Think about it — if you never felt stress, how would you even recognize calm? If you
never felt sadness, how could you truly appreciate joy? You need that contrast. You
need the light and the dark.
And here’s another huge piece of this: once you start seeing your emotions as just a set
of physical sensations in your body — tightness in your chest, a flutter in your stomach,
maybe a heaviness in your throat — they stop being so scary. They can’t actually harm
you. They might feel uncomfortable, but that’s it.
Inside Arms By Kristine, this is some of the most liberating work we do. Because once
you stop fearing negative emotions, you stop avoiding the actions that might bring them
up. You stop quitting on yourself just to avoid feeling disappointed or embarrassed. You
build real trust in yourself, which, let’s be honest, is the true secret to getting strong,
sculpted arms that last a lifetime.
So remember: you’re not supposed to feel positive all the time. Negative emotions
aren’t problems — they’re just part of the beautiful, messy, very human experience.
Now let’s circle back to that second question that so many women have when they first
hear this: “Okay, if my thoughts are optional, if I can actually choose what to think, does
that mean how I feel right now is my fault?”
And I want to be so clear here: no.
It’s not your fault — because no one ever showed you how this works. For almost
everyone listening right now, this is a brand-new concept. This is a completely different
way of seeing the world.
And here’s the other thing: just because you understand how the think-feel-act cycle
works doesn’t mean you’ll be able to snap your fingers and put it into action perfectly.
It’s like expecting to hop on a bike for the very first time and pedal off gracefully into the
sunset. That’s not how it goes. This is a skill. Your brain has to practice it. It takes time
to master.
Honestly, I wish I’d learned this back in grade school. I wish someone had taught me
how my thoughts create my feelings when I was just a kid. But I didn’t learn it until my
30s — and the truth is, neither did you. We weren’t sitting in math class breaking down
mindset models.
Plus, think about the world we live in. We’re surrounded by messages that our
happiness is found outside of us. If we just get the right body, the right number on the
scale, the right partner, the right kids, the right holiday card — then we’ll finally feel
good.
But that’s actually the exact opposite of what the think-feel-act cycle is telling you. It’s
not about your circumstances. It’s not about your arms right now, or your weight, or your
age. It’s about what you’re thinking.
And that is a huge shift. It’s not enough to just know this in your head. You have to see it
play out in your real life. You have to practice it, again and again. That’s how you start to
master it and use it to build not just stronger arms, but a stronger mind.
And I’ll tell you — this is literally what I do for a living. I practice the think-feel-act cycle
every day. And even then, I’m not in perfect control of how I feel all the time, because so
much of our thinking is still unconscious.
So here’s the truth: so much of what’s happening in our minds is automatic. We all have
kneejerk reactions. That’s why it’s never about saying, “Oh, it’s your fault you feel this
way.” Absolutely not.
What I want you to know is this: how you feel isn’t your fault. And it’s also not a problem.
Your negative emotions actually have an incredibly important purpose. They’re like your
own personal alert system — showing you exactly what’s going on in your mind at any
given moment.
Think about it: you have tens of thousands of thoughts every single day. There’s no way
you could consciously keep track of them all. But your emotions? They’re like little flags
saying, “Hey, pay attention. Something’s happening up here.”
That’s why inside Arms By Kristine, we work so much on noticing and naming emotions.
Because once you start tuning into how you feel, you can trace it right back to what
you’re thinking. And that gives you power to shift it.
So just remember: anytime you believe your thought is the truth, or that it’s impossible
to change — pause. Because if someone else could have a different opinion, a different
judgment, then it’s not a fact. It’s simply a thought. And that means it’s optional.
Now let’s move to the next part of the cycle: feelings.
That’s the “feel” in think-feel-act. Your feelings — or emotions — are created by what
you’re thinking. And by the way, I use feelings and emotions interchangeably.
Feelings are simply one-word emotional states. Happy. Sad. Mad. Lonely. Bored.
Stressed. Frustrated. Jealous. Compassionate. Empowered. Powerless. Ashamed. It’s
just a single word that captures how you’re feeling.
And quick note here — “fat” and “terrible” are not feelings. If you catch yourself saying,
“I feel fat,” or “I feel terrible,” you’re not actually naming an emotion. You’re stating a
thought.
So slow down and ask, “What’s the actual emotion here? Is it shame? Is it discouraged?
Is it defeated?” Naming it clearly is so important.
And remember, we’re supposed to have both the good and the bad. The light and the
dark. Experiencing the full spectrum of emotions is what makes us human.
Now, the last piece: action. That’s the “A” in think-feel-act.
This is all about what you do — or don’t do — in response to how you feel. Your actions
don’t just pop out of nowhere. They’re always driven by an emotion.
So when you start writing this down, you’ll want to ask yourself, “Okay, what do I
actually do when I feel disappointed or lonely or embarrassed? Do I skip my workout?
Do I hide under the covers? Do I overeat? Do I lash out at my husband? Or maybe I get
up and take a walk instead of stewing. What’s my action or inaction?”
Alright, so let’s look at the other end of this whole “sandwich.” We’ve got the
circumstance that kicks everything off, then the think-feel-act cycle, and finally — at the
very end — we have the result.
Your result is simply what you create for yourself by taking (or not taking) that action.
And here’s something really important to understand: you only ever create results for
you.
Your results don’t control someone else’s life, and their results don’t control yours.
They’ve got their own think-feel-act cycles running, with their own thoughts, feelings,
and actions. So it’s powerful to keep the focus on “What am I creating for me?”
Now here’s the part that blew my mind when I first learned it from Brooke: whatever
result you create, it’s almost always proving your original thought true.
I know — it sounds a little wild at first. But it actually makes perfect sense once you see
how your brain works. Your brain wants to be right. It wants to keep proving itself true
because it’s way more efficient that way. It saves energy by recycling the same old
thoughts instead of creating new ones.
So your brain is constantly scanning for evidence to back up whatever you already
believe. Think of it like this: if you’re someone who goes through the world seeing the
glass as half empty, guess what? You’ll spot proof of that everywhere — at work, at the
grocery store, scrolling social media, even in how you look at your arms in the mirror.
On the flip side, if your thought is, “The glass is half full,” you’ll keep finding proof for
that too. In your relationships, your workouts, your self-image — your brain will filter the
world to reinforce that belief.
And this is exactly why the think-feel-act cycle is so powerful. It invites you to slow down
and actually notice what you’re thinking, then decide: “Do I want to keep this thought?
Or is it time to change it?”
Now, I’ll be honest — your brain will resist this. It takes more energy to think something
new than to just keep replaying the old tape. That’s why it’s easier to keep believing, “I’ll
never be consistent,” or “My arms are too far gone,” or “I’m just not disciplined.”
But here’s the truth: if you keep those thoughts, you’ll keep getting the same results.
That’s what I realized back when I kept telling myself certain stories about my body, my
age, and my habits. I could have clung to all those old thoughts, but then I would’ve kept
waking up each morning feeling disappointed, frustrated, and stuck in the same place.
If you want to change the results you’re getting in your life — whether that’s finally
seeing toned arms in the mirror, feeling confident in sleeveless tops, or just proving to
yourself that you can actually follow through — it all starts by changing what you’re
thinking.
That’s the biggest thing the think-feel-act cycle taught me. You have to actively
supervise your own mind. You have to direct it on purpose, even when it doesn’t want
to. Because let’s be real — your brain would much rather coast on autopilot.
That means you have to be willing to challenge what you think. To question it. Not to just
throw up your hands and say, “Well, this is true. I can’t change it.” Because the truth is,
you can always change it.
This is the exact full cycle I use for myself — and that I teach inside Arms By Kristine.
You’ve got your circumstance kicking everything off, then the think-feel-act cycle running
in the middle, and finally your result at the end, showing you exactly what you’re
creating for yourself.
Now, if you want to start using this as an actual tool — not just an interesting idea —
there are two things you have to do.
First, you have to identify your current cycle. What are you automatically and habitually
thinking right now? Because most of us have old thoughts that have been on repeat for
years. You’ve got to pull those out into the open.
Second, once you see it laid out on paper, you have to look for a shift. How could you
change what you’re thinking, so you can start to feel differently on purpose — even if
nothing about your circumstance changes?
So let me give you an example.
Let’s say your arms today are your circumstance. They’re neutral. The size, the shape,
the softness — it’s all just factual data until you think a thought about it.
Now, most of us have tons of opinions about our arms. Maybe yours is, “Ugh, I hate
how they look. They’re embarrassing. I’m too old to fix this.” And if that’s your thought,
of course you’re going to feel defeated or discouraged. Which leads to inaction — you
skip your workout, you eat mindlessly — and then you end up with the same results,
arms that aren’t changing, and more evidence for your original thought.
But here’s the thing: shifting your thoughts doesn’t mean slapping on fake positivity. You
can’t just jump from, “I hate my arms,” to, “I love them!” in one leap. Your brain will
completely reject that.
What you can do is move from “I hate them” to “They’re just arms, and they’re mine.” Or
even from “I hate how they look,” to “I’m learning how to take care of them.”
Imagine how much better that would feel. Not going from angry to thrilled, but from
angry to maybe just a little neutral, or slightly hopeful. That tiny shift is what opens the
door to taking different actions.
So what I’m going to do next is walk you through an example of how this looks in
practice, so you can see exactly how to apply it.
Here’s the thing — you probably have a laundry list of thoughts swirling around about
your arms, your body, your workouts, or even social situations where you’re worried
about being judged.
But when you’re using the think-feel-act cycle as a tool, this is not the place to dump out
every single thought. You want to pick one. Just pull out a single thought and see what
that one thought is creating for you. That’s how you start to truly understand how the
cycle works.
So let’s walk through an example.
Say the neutral circumstance is getting invited to a summer BBQ. The party itself is just
a fact — it’s not good or bad until you have a thought about it.
Now maybe your thought is: “I don’t want to wear a sleeveless top because people
might notice how soft my arms are. They might judge me.”
When you think that thought, how do you feel? Maybe anxious, embarrassed, even a
little ashamed.
So then what happens? When you feel anxious, you might stand in the back, cross your
arms over your body, turn down invites to play games or take photos. Maybe you even
bail on the party altogether or avoid conversations. Those are all actions — or inactions
— driven by that anxious feeling.
And what’s the result? You’re still hiding. You’re still reinforcing the belief that your arms
are something to be ashamed of, something that needs to be covered up. It all just
proves that original thought true.
This is exactly what we work on inside Arms By Kristine. Because once you see how a
single thought can ripple out into your feelings, your actions, and ultimately your results
— you start to understand why it’s not just about pushing yourself through another
workout. It’s about learning to think differently so you can show up differently, for your
arms and your life.
I was actually talking about this exact idea with one of my clients the other day. She had
a night out planned with a bunch of girlfriends she hadn’t seen in a while. And she was
already stressing about it — not because of what they might say about drinking, but
because she was terrified someone would comment on how she looked.
She told me she was hoping nobody would say anything about her arms, or ask if she
was losing weight, or even just compliment her — because she didn’t want to talk about
it. The whole thing had her tied up in knots.
When we started unpacking it, it was so clear: the anxiety she was feeling was
completely shaping how she was showing up. It was like she was clutching this big
secret — her decision to start working on her body and not wanting to explain it to
anyone — like Gollum from Lord of the Rings with his precious ring. Just hanging off in
the corner, guarded and hyper-focused on hiding it from everyone.
And that’s what happens. How you feel drives how you act. When you feel anxious, you
might pull away, act a little awkward, avoid connection. Not because you don’t care, but
because your brain is stuck protecting you from embarrassment or judgment.
But once she could see it — once she realized her own thoughts were creating all that
anxiety, and then steering how she was showing up — she finally understood she had
the power to change it.
And the best part? She didn’t have to change her friends. She didn’t need them to be
more understanding or more supportive or more compassionate. She just needed to
start shifting her own thinking.
But here’s the thing: that shift doesn’t happen in one giant leap. It’s like climbing a
ladder. You’re not going to go from anxious to totally confident overnight. It doesn’t work
that way.
What you can do is move up one small rung at a time. And inside Arms By Kristine,
that’s exactly what we practice — brainstorming new thoughts you could try on about
the same exact situation.
So in this example, the party is still the circumstance. It’s completely neutral. And there
are literally a million different thoughts you could have about going to a party. If you
know your current thought is creating anxiety, then your job is to start nudging it toward
something that feels just a little lighter.
So let’s walk through how you might actually shift this in a real situation.
Say you pick a new thought like, “I can practice saying I’m working on my arms and my
health.” Or even just, “I can practice saying I’m focusing on taking care of myself right
now.”
Notice that word — practice. It takes all the pressure off. Because when you think, “I’m
just practicing,” maybe you start to feel committed, or a little bit proud, or even
compassionate toward yourself. It’s a totally different feeling than anxiety.
And from that place, your action might be to actually say it out loud. To tell someone,
“Yeah, I’ve started this program, I’m focusing on my arms, and I’m really excited about
it.” Or maybe just, “I’m working on taking care of myself these days.”
The result? You realize it’s not nearly as scary as your brain told you it would be. Each
time you say it, it gets a little easier. Like building muscle, it’s a skill that gets stronger
the more you use it.
So here’s how you turn this from just an interesting concept into a powerful tool:
First, identify the circumstance.
Then notice what you’re thinking about it.
Ask how those thoughts make you feel.
Observe how you act when you feel that way.
And finally, see the results you’re getting.
If you don’t like those results — if you don’t like how you’re feeling, or how you’re
showing up — that’s your cue. You get to decide if you want to do the work to change
your think-feel-act cycle.
Start by brainstorming new thoughts. Go slow. You’re not going to leap from anxious to
totally confident overnight. But you can start to move up the ladder.
Ask yourself: “Are there other things I could think? Could I see this in a different light? Is
there a gentler judgment I could have? Can I challenge my old story?”
This is how you take the think-feel-act cycle from just a framework into a real, practical
tool that can change everything — not just your arms, but your entire relationship with
yourself. And I promise, it is so powerful.
If you’re curious about how to dive deeper and actually put this into practice with
support, this is exactly what we do inside Arms By Kristine. You can find the link to join
us right in the show notes.
Good luck — and I’d love to hear how it goes for you.
